Nothing Ever Stays the Same

Posted in   Team   on  January 31, 2023 by  David Loke0

Nothing ever stays the same. On the one hand, we despise change yet on the other we don’t want to stagnate and become boring. Yet our habits keep us locked into a course of action day after day, year after year. The way we think, the way we behave, the way we experience things, and the way we react to incidents, all are dominated by our habits. They are so strong that most do not even know what they are. Whatever our habits are, they keep us fixed in a particular perspective or behavior. They stop us from reaching our potential.

Our habits are basically involuntary acts we perform unintentionally and without thinking. We just are them. Yes. We are our habits. Whether you lack confidence, find it difficult to make decisions, always arrive late for an appointment, can’t say no …, feel lonely, feel stupid, or think others always know best…… These are all habits. That’s the bad news.  

The good news is that you can change. Change is based on choice. Once you realize what your habits are, you have more chance of changing them. It may not be easy. It may be painful, sometimes. But it is also fun and rewarding because you are changing your life. You are opening yourself to see the possibilities of your potential. What you are capable of.

History shows us that there are four key ingredients to successfully change habits:

Reflection, Realisation, Resolve, and Sustained Effort.

In other words, all you have to do is imagine you are the gardener of your life:

Reflect on the state of your garden.

Realize what are weeds and what are flowers.

Remove the weeds

Replace the weeds with flowers and make a sustained effort to keep the garden clear of weeds you don’t want.

What is the largest weed in your garden? Which habit causes you the most pain?

What is keeping this weed in place? What stops you from pulling it out?

Look at all the obstacles and think of the best method for eradicating the weed. Remember some weeds do not come out at first pull. They leave a little root behind. Some are better killed off with weed killer rather than a tortuous pull. Look for the best method for your weed.

Now, what flower would you like to plant in its place? What behavior would you like to put in instead of the habit? You will need something because all of us that have changed habits are aware of the need for transitory behavior. A good example is giving up smoking. The transitory behavior is either: something to do with your hands, instead of holding a cigarette; gum to chew when you would light a cigarette, or a sweet to pop into your mouth when you feel like a cigarette.

So what flower would you like to put in place of your weed?

The next phase is the key to success.

For all gardeners, the next phase is the easiest and yet the most difficult. Make a sustained effort to keep the weed out of your garden. This is the key. It is so easy to say I’ve done it and walk away. Sustained effort can also be called zeal and enthusiasm. Be passionate about clearing your weed. Tell others what you are doing. Avoid incidents that would automatically set the weed off. Keep looking at your new flower. Have zeal and enthusiasm for your new flower. Keep focussed on the flower. Make a sustained effort to keep the new flower watered and the area around it free from weeds. Nourish it. Fertilize it. Talk to it. Gradually the new flower will blossom and the old weed will disappear.

About the Author David Loke

David Loke is the co-founder and CEO of ReadySpace, a Cloud Service Provider in the APAC region. In 2003, he started ReadySpace with the vision to provide customers with reliable, secure, affordable and simple online apps. It then evolved into what we call Cloud today. Being through a decade of running ReadySpace, it has now grown into a regional business serving business owners and its managers across various industries to their success.
Right now, he is taking his wealth of experience to help over 700 business owners as mentor and coach with an ultimate goal to multiply wealth creation.

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